Confrontation can be challenging but it’s impossible to advance, grow, and succeed with it. With productive confrontation, you pave your way for thoug
Confrontation can be challenging but it’s impossible to advance, grow, and succeed with it. With productive confrontation, you pave your way for thought diversity, develop healthy boundaries, make better decisions, come up with innovative ideas, and challenge the status quo.
Need help with confronting? Here are some strategies for a productive yet effective confrontation:
Prepare Yourself Mentally
Just like you prepare yourself for a good speech, prepare yourself for the confrontation. Evaluate your thoughts and feelings. Separate them by identifying the real issue in question. Remove all tangential factors that aren’t relevant to the discussion.
Imagine what the individual you are confronting cares about. Figure out their agenda and put yourself in their shoes. This makes it easier to anticipate how they are likely to respond. Think about an ideal resolution for both of you. Visualize your confrontation too. If you are angry to envision a mutual outcome that means you are not ready.
Set the Stage
You are not going out to fight. You must create a safe environment to begin the talk. Don’t publicly say “We need to talk.” Instead, ask permission to start the discussion.
It’s important to be hard on the issue and be soft on the person you are confronting. Say whatever you need for addressing the problem. As you speak, show compassion, respect, and care.
Neutralize your emotions. It is recommended to role-play the scenario with a person you can trust. You can even ask for feedback and suggestion on how to can open your mind.
Do Not Wait
Whenever adversity arises, tackle the root cause as soon as possible. However, that does not mean you reach without a plan of action. If you leave the problem on the backburner, it grows and the situation may go out of hand. Therefore, it’s best to inhale, create a plan, and tackle the situation.
Always Stick to the Subject
Do not let the individual lead you away from the matter. If you do, you are giving the other person control of the discussion. Feel free to say that something like “This isn’t related to the subject. Let’s discuss this in another meeting.” You need to stick up for yourself. Practice everything and say it aloud until you are comfortable with it.
Whenever you are confronting, don’t rush to a solution otherwise you might neglect the feelings of the other person. Take the time to understand their story. Show empathy and a sense of understanding. Work together to come up with a middle ground. Never sweep opinions of others under the rug.
Strive For a Mutually Satisfying Resolution
Do not attach yourself to one particular outcome. Explore possible solutions and maybe some alternatives. Focus on the needs and wants of all parties involved. In other words, make up your mind to strike a solution that satisfies everyone.
Before rejecting the suggestions, discuss all positive and negative possibilities. Finally, do whatever you have agreed upon. If you don’t, you are to lose the trust and respect of your people.
Once you have come up with the solution, follow up to touch the base.
By: Joan Anointed Anoka